Sometimes, I feel a disconnect because I am from around here and yet the choices we make are so different from the ones our friends make. The top three things that most people who’re in our station of life consider normal are: a live-in helper, a car, and a second income (or a very large single income). On the surface, it may seem like our choices are based on how to be thrifty, when it goes much deeper than that.
We often don’t take taxis, preferring to use the outstanding public transport system here (which could be more stroller/wheelchair-friendly, I might add). For one thing, the cost of buying and maintaining a car here is astronomical (a small car is about S$20,000). For another, it’s just a way of life for us–we used to take the bus and bike when we were in Iowa City. When we tell people about this, we are often met with incredulous looks, especially since we have a baby and the multitude of things that babies need. I mentioned this once in friendly conversation with a taxi driver and he was chagrined. He said, “Why not, with a baby and everything? They’re not that expensive?” What he said is true, but it’s just not how we choose to spend our dollars. Instead, about 50 percent of our dollars go towards paying our rent. Now, who wouldn’t find that a tad bit confusing? You’re too cheap to pay for taxis but you stay in a private condo with swimming pools, gym, tennis courts etc? Well, let’s just say the property market in Singapore is somewhat of an anomaly.
When we moved back to Singapore about two years ago, we were looking for a three-bedroom apartment because that’s what we thought we needed. We tried looking at public housing first, but there weren’t many near SK’s work place and the places that were available didn’t justify the asking price. We decided to pay a bit more for a place that we’d feel comfortable in and that was near SK’s workplace, so he didn’t have to commute (most people commute at least an hour one-way). And you know what? Our decision has paid off, although not in dollars and cents. Because SK only has a 10-minute walk to work, he can:
1) take the morning shift with Jadyn most mornings of the week,
2) come back for lunch and see his daughter,
3) swim or take a nap during lunch, and
4) run back with keys when Po Li locks herself out.
The boon for me is:
1) I’m within walking distance of two city parks (one of which is the largest one this side of the island), which has been essential in entertaining a roaming toddler who goes for walks three times a day,
2) we have two supermarkets, a shopping mall and a wet market–try lugging groceries and a baby on a bus, and
3) we can take one of three buses to church, which is a 15-minute bus ride away
Most of the other moms I know have husbands who’re here on expatriate contracts, which means they have large stipends that make taking taxis a no-brainer. It sometimes makes it awkward in arranging playdates with them. Not only is there the unpredictability of nap times that makes me feel like I’m Command Central pulling off a tricky war zone maneuver: “Baby just went to sleep and I don’t know when he’ll wake up,” I say, wearing make up and nice clothes in anticipation of having adult conversation for the first time this week (not counting time with the hubby). Anyone else know what I’m talking about?
But then, when baby does wake up and is able to play, I have to tell them, “OK, I’ll see you there in an hour’s time,” because it’ll probably take me that long via public transport to get to wherever we have to meet. And as anybody with babies know, an hour could mean a really grumpy baby who’s on the way to another nap! My friends are probably thinking I’m too cheap to take a taxi and in some ways that’s true. But, as I mentioned at the start of this post, what looks like it’s black and white may actually be gray…
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